Relationship Coaching Toronto: Healing Jealousy

Ray Maxwell is a COUPLES Relationship Coach in Toronto,
with experience helping to heal jealousy in marriage, family, or business relationships.

See "HEALING JEALOUSY IN A RELATIONSHIP" below.

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HEALING JEALOUSY IN A RELATIONSHIP

Jealousy: Is it unstoppable?

Jealousy is like a black hole in space,
which attracts everything into itself,
even otherwise good things! It feeds
upon these, from which it can grow larger.

It is painful for the sufferer, and for
those in relationship with the sufferer.

Can relationship coaching help stop jealousy?

In my experience, often yes. Healing can begin
by feeding, to this "black hole" that we are calling jealousy,
an idea of caring upon which it cannot feed.

Finding this right-and-accurate-and-believable element
of caring - undeniable and very much wanted -
is the challenge, but once this element is inside,
the turbulence subsides.

This is when the black-hole-like-jealousy "formation"
can slowly begin to turn itself inside out! Then it reveals
that it is more like a flower, with petals, each petal
holding an element of relationship stability: self-esteem,
love, security, dedication, support, respect, admiration, contribution,
sweetness, sensuality, comfort, helpfulness, etc.

As you see, in this metaphor, jealousy is not really
a ”green-eyed-monster” that it had seemed to be!
It actually a a stability-seeking function, intending to attract
what it needs to become that flower, open and in balance,
with each of its support and self-esteem needs fully met.

THE WOUNDS OF THE PAST

However, the “wounds” of the past are impediments.

Those wounds don’t want to hurt anymore.
Each wound wishes to heal.

What kind to structure can lead to this healing?

SELF DEFENSE - THE IMPEDIMENTS

Barricades of self-defense, lances of laments, or accusations,
elements intended to protect, instead add fuel.

In our human nature, it is very hard to contain,
to resist, to hold within and not send, our barricades
and lances. These rush out from our lips, our stances,
and our attitudes.

RELATIONSHIP COACHING for
JEALOUSY within COUPLES RELATIONSHIPS

Relationship coaching by a compassionate
human being that understands wounds, too, can
help turn around this seemingly unstoppable vortex.

Change - even a little -can start the seeds of hope growing,
upon which gradual and profound changes can be built.

Ray Maxwell has coached many couples and individuals
from the pain of discord into support and nurturance.

Let's get to work, and find out to what extent
you can live the theoretical ideal,
that "Suffering is Optional".

Please call if you would like to give this a try.

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